Topics for group sessions in the series Mastering the Effortless
About success (and about being good at failing)
What is a successful life for you and how do you value it?
Our vision of success differs from one another. I think the term 'Being successful' is going through changes at the moment and what used to be considered as success is changing.
It used to be more about how the outside world sees us, but I feel that now it's more about going inward and figuring out what success means for us regardless of how others sees it.
Anyway, if we want to be successful in something, we first need to succeed in failing!
To be really successful at what we love, we need to be very good at failing.
In addition, being persistent is important in order to get what we want and to succeed in what we love. It is very much about doing it long enough. Being talented is not enough.
If we keep doing what we love and we want it enough we will eventually get it, no matter what.
The problem is that most people just don't persist enough; they give up after one failure. If we really want something enough we should stay with it, do it for ourselves and find our way of doing it. First we have to look inside and get in tune with what we want to do and with why we want it, only then do the outside world come!
We invite you all to look at how you value success these days and to explore whether you can re-learn what it means for you and maybe change something in the way you see it. Together with the group support there is a chance to see it more clearly.
Come to be super successful with us!
Isabel and Alona
Most of our days we are busy running from one task to another and we forget to take some time for doing nothing.
Doing nothing can be a very challenging thing for us as it involves teaching ourselves to reduce distortions we live with- due to expectations people have from us or we have from ourselves- and training ourselves to take time to reflect, to let go, and to just be without achieving any goal nor furthering anything.
I believe these are very healthy, nourishing and important things for us.
We should also be aware that sometimes even when we try to relax or to meditate we do it out of some kind of pressure. Being able to allow ourselves to take moments of really doing nothing is something we need to learn. There are always small brakes… we can always find a gap, a moment of silence even while working. It's for us to decide what we are doing during these breaks...
In this group meeting we will look at the meaning of doing nothing for us and at how we can find more silence in our daily life and reduce the distortion.
Alona and team
We are concerned about being disturbed.
We try to find ways to not being disturbed.
Why don't we want to be disturbed?
If we want to find out about ourselves we have to learn to be able to deal with feeling uncomfortable and going through all disturbing feelings.
When we are too comfortable we feel safe but at the same time we are isolated and half asleep. It is possible to stay centered while being disturbed. It is pretty rare to meet people who stay calm while not getting what they want but when it happens there is something very attractive about it.
When we don't mind being disturbed and are not taking it too seriously, our attitude toward life can change and this is when we can go deeper inward and learn more about ourselves, about our reactions.
Then we can experience things directly without needing to always define and name them, nor blaming others for our misery. When we allow ourselves to directly experience anger without verbalizing it, than there is an experience which can be understood in a direct way and this direct understanding can bring a big transformation.
Things are the way they are. Out of suffering, we want things to be different than they are; we keep fighting in order for them to be the way we want, the way that will make us feel comfortable.
Meditation is a tool that allows us to go deeper, to calm and quite our mind and to give space to all the feelings that are present. Through meditation we learn to take a step back and allow a greater intelligence to take over, to organize and guide us. This is the place where realization, understanding and healing happen on a deeper level.
In these five group meetings we will create together a meditative space and will look at whatever comes up for each one of us.
There will be a space for sharing and deep healing.
We are welcoming you to go deeper with us,
Alona & Team
How to stop waiting for an approval for doing what we want!
(And have a direct connection to ourselves instead)
Looking for the approval of others in order to follow our desires or whatever we want to do, will never get us the approval we wish for. It only means give up to pleasing someone else who will never be pleased.
We don't have to wait for others to give us permission to do what we love, and we should not ask anyone for their approval.
When we feel ready to do something new, to take a new step, a courageous step, we just need to do it. No matter what!
Follow your passion and excitement and use them as your guide.
Don't look for perfection! We just need to take the first step and start the journey. It is an ongoing process and it will keep changing and unfolding anyway. But there is a moment we need to start. Without anyone's opinion!
When we don’t have any "technique" or "method" we tend to think that we are not good enough and we then search the right method or technique outside instead of using our own inner power and wisdom. External power will not bring us any fulfillment in the long run.
It is very much possible to get in touch with our inner being and inner power but It might take some practice .Meditating is a very good way of practicing it!
We are happy to explore the first group with you!
The group is a place where we meditate and focus together on our habits and intentions.
Meditation allows us to create inner space and to slow down, to bring the past into the present and to get in tune with ourselves and with what life brings us at every moment.
Alona and team.